Marriage..... What does Gods Word Say about it?

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   We are going to jump right into Gods Word and see what he actually says about Marriage. 
Genesis 2:22-24

Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman, ' for she was taken out of man." For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh

Proverbs 18:22

He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.

Proverbs 12:4

A wife of noble character is her husband's crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.

Deuteronomy 24:5

If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married

Matthew 19:4-6

"Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh' ? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."

1 Corinthians 7:1-16

Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry. But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command. I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

Ephesians 5:22-23

Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior

 

    Ok, so as you can see from several scriptures above that Gods word is very specific on what Marriage was desinged for.  God created the  unity of a man and a woman from the very beginning and when they come together, he sees them as ONE flesh.  The two become one when they unite.  When we get married we make a covenant with God.  We have a "meeting of the  minds" (as they say in legal terms in law) we are all on the same page and we are coming to our Heavenly Father and saying it to him as a promise.  We are promising that we will become one flesh and that no matter what we will remain together because his word says so.  Then the order that God designed is for the man to be the head of the household.  He is supposed to love his wife and sacrifice, just as Christ did for the church.  By him doing this, the wife then is to submit under him and follow.  The husband needs to have God first, then his wife.  The wife is to have God first, then the husband.  As you see, if the husband is truly following God, then the wife is just supposed to be able to just look towards her husband, and then everything will line up.  The husband is supposed to be aligned with the word of God to where when he is, he is the most sacrifical and more weight falls on him.  If there is a decision to be made in the house, then there should be a discussion of what to do, but at the end, the husband needs to make the final decision.  This may be hard because our world teaches us the exact opposite.  This may also be difficult if kids are involved because both people may have differnt parenting styles.  But you both have to be in agreement, and he has to make the final decision.  The way we can keep learning Gods style that he intended for Marriage is to keep getting in the Word of God to renew our minds.  Marriage is a sacred union that is not to be perverted or distorted.  It is a holy act and a holy union.  The devil perverts marriage by having people do everything together, besides marriage.  He wants us to live together not married, sleep together not married, women ordering the men around and making them feel like nothing, etc.  There is a holy order that God designed and when you do it HIS way, you will be blessed.  You WILL have a blessed marriage, you will become one.  But, it takes God to be number one in your marriage.  Start putting God first and you will become blessed.  I highly recommend having talks everynight so you both can get on the same page on how to do it Gods way.