What happens in Marriage (In todays Society)

I am going to paint a picture on what I feel people tend to think of marriage.  Being young everyone wants to grow up and can't wait to be on their own and do what they want.  They can't wait to drive, have a job, their own place, their own car, start dating, get married, and have a family of their own.  There are these expectations that we build up in our mind on what we look for in our spouse.  We have visions of what we do want and what we don't want.  We have the "must" list, on everything our spouse needs to have.  When we feel we find this person, we then compare this person with our expectation list we have envisioned our entire life.  Once we see it connects then we decide to marry.  It is so exciting, your life is set, your dream has come true and everything is good.  The thing in our vision that we never imagined is problems or hard times.  Yes people say them in their vows, but it seems they glaze over them and focus on hearing "good times" and have the mentality "oh we will get to it when we get to it."  Then finally issues start arrising and now our dream is looking foggy and cloudy.  We now start to look at that person and question if they are who they were when you met them.  The image starts to get disfigured and then you start asking yourself if this is what you really wanted.  Then you start focusing on all the bad things and the annoying things and you forget the reason you ever married the person to begin with.  Instead of being in a rush to get home, you now look for excuses to not come home.  You stay longer working, out with friends, etc.  There is a distance that has been created to where neither party doesn't know how they got there.  Then all of a sudden the "D" word comes up.  In the society Divorce is such a common word today and a common act to take part in.  There are more divorces then marriages actually staying together.  People tend to just live together instead of ever getting married because if it doesn't work out then it is easier to split up.  Then when both get divorced each go on a search to find their expecation list that the first person never met and the process starts all over.  Does this sound familiar to you? Do you know someone going through this?  Or are you in this today?   If so, then I am goiing to throw something at you that you don't have in your marriage......get ready....... G O D!!!!!  God designed marriage and created it.  He created the meaning of marriage, he has the plan of how marriage is supposed to be and the outline is in the Bible.  You can read the Bible and know the outline but never truly apply it to your marriage.  You can go your whole life being married and miss the outline.  It is clearly laid out in the Bible and it starts out in Genesis.  Do you want to have a succesful marriage?  Then run to the marriage book... The Bible.  Run to the ultimate counselor, God.    It takes both people to have God first in their life and come together as one.  There needs to be complete unity.  Right now in your head you are thinking...."Katy, I was on the right track with God, it was the other person"  My answer to you is..... You are responsible for what YOU do,  YOU be godly, You give love when someone is mean, you choose to reconcile when the other doesn't, You find hope when there isn't any to find.  If God never gave up on us, then we can't give up on marriage.   God blesses each person who is married, and he gave you your spouse as a gift because he is pleased with you.  If God gives you a present and you treat that present as trash, then what are you saying to God.  Don't put on an act and say you tried everything.  There is no magic number, or timeline when you throw in the towel.  God is patient with us so we must be patient in our marriage.  So go run out and get godly in your marriage.  Don't be another statistic in the world of another failed marriage